I knew I should've stayed out of this thread.
laureanna, how could you possibly think I was referring to you, no matter how poorly worded my post was? I know you are especially vulnerable right now, and I am deeply sorry to have added to your sorrow, even inadvertently.
Not only was I not referring to you personally, I wasn't even making a blanket statement about everybody who opposes abortion. If my post can be read that way, I must find different wording, and I apologize to everybody else who is feeling hurt by it.
In fact, I think everybody who posted in this thread agrees that abortion is not a good thing. Most of us seem to agree that it is a terrible choice for any woman to face, and nobody that I recall ever said that it should be made lightly. What some of us are saying is that making it illegal would only make things worse, and cost thousands of women's lives.
And if one believes abortion to be a terrible thing, there are two routs to take. One is to do what you are doing, what jewelsong is doing - to focus on the most vulnerable women and help them get to the point where having and raising a child is a bearable option, or in the case of teenagers where they make better choices about having sex in the first place. I would call that a loving approach, which can't fail but make this world a better place to live. This is saying "abortion is terrible, and we must change the world so that women don't need to resort to it."
The other way is to say, "abortion is evil and we will punish every woman who turns to it". Women are portrayed as irresponsible, wicked, wanton fornicators (in those precise words), selfish bitches, who cheerfully abort their pregnancies just so children do not interfere with their narcissistic pursuits. As vison has pointed out, at the root of that position is very often contempt for women in general and fear of the power they may gain should they have control of their sexuality.
It is that approach that I referred to as brutal. I didn't get the impression that anybody here supported it, at least not as a conscious choice.
I hope this makes better sense. If it doesn't, please consider it my failure to make myself clear, and not in any way a personal attack on anybody here.