I might post less frequently for the next few days - I'm not queening out and leaving, but it takes a lot of time and energy to formulate responses for this thread, which I find are both in short supply right now. I daresay that the resolution to stop posting will last for less than twenty-four hours, though. I don't pretend to have much willpower when it comes to staying out of this sort of discussion, and I'm not even going to try.
I wanted to thank Athrabeth for sharing her story - it was so moving that I read it at least six times over the course of today. vison, Jewel, Wilma, Cerin, Frelga, SM, Eruname, Teremia, thank you.
Idylle - I want to clarify, again, that I never have believed that only women can have an opinion on this subject. To be 150% honest, I do think that abortion affects us more, but everyone has a right to express their view. Also, I'm fully behind the idea of personal responsibility, but I think that abortion fits into such an idea differently than Hal does. Still, if I end up in an opposite-sex LTR, I would be sure to take all contraceptive precautions, and ideally make sure that either I received a tubal or the SO received a vasectomy. Although I disagree with Hal's strict sex --> procreation idea, I think that it is quite reasonable to ask people (normatively speaking) who do not want children to take every measure available to them to avoid conceiving. [We should note, however, that based on geographic location, financial means, and more, not all women and men will have the same options available.]
As yov points out, though, there are certainly other forms of intercourse than penis --> vagina. I have pointed that out many times. Some are open to heterosexuals, and a great deal more are available to non-heterosexuals. All provide a blessed respite from the difficult issues we tackle in this thread, although, of course, personal responsibility issues will continue to arise with regard to STDs.
hal - never would've imagined, while we were both posting on TORC, that we'd disagree this strongly. It still feels odd to me - I had gotten used to seeing a post of yours and thinking, "Oh, good, I don't have to bother to respond, because my thoughts exactly will already have been posted." I guess, all I have to say is, I'm sorry if this thread is affecting you badly, and I respect your conviction in this area even as I strongly disagree.
In general: When I started this thread, I was in a slightly argumentative mood, and truthfully, I didn't actually expect anything good to come of it. Not to say that I was trying to troll, but I expected that we might have a few good posts before it degenerated into abortion bickering. Instead, for the first time ever that I've seen online, at least 15-20 posters have come together, representing a spectrum of views on this subject, spanning multiple generations and races, both male and female, etc - and have begun to engage in constructive dialogue. Some people have shared personal stories, some have shared statistics, and others have shared a range of potential scenarios that should be considered. I am not sure whether anyone has had this productive a discussion on abortion elsewhere, because I've never seen it happen.
I said at one point that I did not expect my beliefs on abortion to change. That is true insofar as I expect to remain pro-choice at the time that we ultimately let this thread drop to the bottom of the page. But, I think that some of the snap answers and rhetoric that I've previously used are gone for good. I think that I will be much less likely to oversimplify these issues, and when I discuss abortion, I will be likely to think to the stories and impassioned arguments made here. When one is surrounded only by people who see eye-to-eye with oneself on this question, it is easy to oversimplify the issues. I think this thread serves to counter that trend.
I guess I'm just thanking everyone for this discussion so far, and I'm looking forward to it continuing. I hope I'm not the only one who has taken something meaningful from it.