However, I could choose to forget Tolkien while watching them.
It is a rare talent, to be able to choose to forget something. I find I am not able to forget Tolkien while watching the films.
It is possible, one thing that could accomplish that, is for you to put aside the extremely strong attraction you have to this one set of rules for this one forum.
It is not about an attraction to a set of rules, for pity's sake. It is what the rules represent - the safety and trust for me to make myself vulnerable by openly and honestly discussing difficult situations under the scrutiny of the rest of the board.
The comparisons people have made to ToE are apt, the efforts to minimize the similarities notwithstanding. The idea that BR is somehow less permanent than ToE is illusory. Of course we are not always there, but BR is always there when we need it, and it is no longer there for me, just as ToE would no longer have been there for Estel, or tp, or Wilma if a safeguard had not been put in place and they had had to delete their posts. IIRC, Eru did not at that time protest to any of those people that if they felt they would have to delete their posts, then that would be their choice to feel that way.
The three forums that have portions of the Charter devoted to their use all have something in common. They fill a special need, and they require members to make themselves vulnerable to some extent in order to participate there. In Bike Racks, you are speaking frankly and openly about personal feelings in view of the whole board; in ToE, you are revealing intimate knowledge about your personal life; in the role play forum, you are revealing your creative efforts to others. In each case, the act of making oneself vulnerable requires a certain level of trust, and that trust depends on the expectation that others participating in the forum will honor these revelations by acting in a respectful manner and taking the offerings of other members seriously. Having mock resolutions in Bike Racks destroys that atmosphere of trust for me.
I made an effort to understand the concerns of those who posted in ToE, and having achieved a certain level of understanding, I devoted a significant portion of my time and energy to do everything I possibly could to ensure that those concerns were adequately addressed, in so far as was possible on the now open board. Now when I have similar concerns about the use of a forum that was precious to me being lost to me, what I get from others is spit in the face. It is more hurtful than I can say.
I can't honestly believe this is the most important thing about B77 for you. And if it is not, it might be beneficial for you, and for the board, if you let it go.
As it might have been beneficial for the ToE posters and the board to let those concerns go, since we can't honestly believe that was the most important thing about B77 for them? But they didn't let it go, and we didn't let it go, because being able to continue to use that forum was important to those people.
That said, another possability, is that the rest of the board could capitulate and give you exactly what you want. What will that have accomplished? You will have your bikeracks back FOR YOU. You will have completely (but not irrevocably) alienated a much larger group than you may think. There will be a large group that thinks the bikeracks is even MORE of a joke than it is now, and people may be less likely to take things to the bikeracks out of a fear that thier discussion may not be allowed.
Do you know what? I don't give a flying fuck if I alienate people who put their desire to have fun above another member's need to use the forum for dispute resolution. I don't care to make an effort to know those people, because I obviously don't share enough of a value base with them to make the effort meaningful or worthwhile for any of us.
As for the idea that requiring that the intended use for Bike Racks be respected the way the intended use for ToE and role play forums are respected somehow infringes on anyone else's right to benefit from that forum, that is bullshit, plain and simple.
You're fighting for what YOU think the bikeracks should be.
No, sweetface. I'm fighting for what every one of us knows God-damned well the Bike Racks is meant to be. It is meant to be a place where members can go when they need to resolve personal disputes and prefer to do so publicly. It is no longer that place for me, because you and others had to have your fun there, and you put that need above the need of others -- perhaps only one other -- to benefit from the forum in the way it was intended.
What matters is that you're only fighting for what YOU want for the boards, not necessarily what is best for the board.
No, that is exactly what you are doing. I am fighting for the ability to use the Bike Racks as it was intended to be used when necessary by all members including myself. Is the forum still there? Yes. Would the ToE forum still have been there had we not passed an amendment? Yes. Would people have been able to continue to use it? They said no, Eru would apparently say yes, and if they felt they could no longer use the forum, that was their choice. Well, I don't believe it would have been their choice had they felt they could no longer use the forum because the level of trust in it had been destroyed for them. That same ability to use a forum is lost to me now, because some people childishly and selfishly put their 'need' to have joke threads in the forum above my need to be able to resolve personal disputes when necessary.
Yes, each person thinks what they want is what's best for the board. Compromise, is acknowledging that what you think is best for the board, MIGHT not be.
Care to take your own advice for once? This might be a good time.